Creating new traditions
Reflection on traditions and family memories can also be an opportunity to assess and develop new traditions. Traditions, just like families, grow and change – since you were likely not involved in the planning or carrying out of your childhood family traditions, you get a unique opportunity to assess the implementation of family traditions in your own family, or even eliminate them all together!
To create a new family tradition, you should identify “What do I want the purpose to be?” and “How can I make it Personal?”
In identifying the purpose, answer questions like:
What do I hope my children and family will get out of this?
Is there a certain value or cultural importance I want to emphasize with this tradition?
Once you have thought about these questions, you can begin thinking about WHO will be involved in your traditions, and making it personal! Most likely you are incorporating new family members, friends and close relationships into this tradition as well as finding a blend of your spouse/partner’s traditions.it unique to these individuals will provide the opportunity for new family traditions.
Now don’t go overboard – it can be tempting to create a new tradition for every holiday or event. Start slow, and pick a few. But also be willing to adapt and change those as time goes on!
Have fun with it!
Lora Leslie DeMoss, LCSW